We practice Mindful Releasing from the assumption that who and what we are is the embodiment of unconditional love and the already and always free Consciousness of Being. The truth is that, as Divine Consciousness, we are already free from suffering, already free from every form of bondage.
The core paradigm shift is from thinking that you are inside your body, to the felt knowing that your body is inside of you. This shift of perception is the truth that lies behind the old teaching story of "Before enlightenment chop wood, carry water; after enlightenment chop wood, carry water.
The single greatest factor that holds most of us back from being the person we would love to be, who lives the life we would love to live ... is FEAR. And when it comes to our intimate relationships, fear can raise it's head big time.
Desire for the pleasures of the world was called by Buddha "the root of suffering". In my experience this is absolutely true. However, what is often missed is that desire has two sides to it: wanting and aversion.